Every day in you life, you have to make decisions. From the simplest ‘what time should I wake up this morning’ to things that will affect not only your own life, but also people that you care and love so dearly. At times, you may not want to be the one making that decision, you let other people decide for you (that’s when you say “terserah…..”). But I guess, that’s also a decision, a decision that shows either you don’t want to be responsible of what the decision will bring, or you truly have no idea of what exactly you really want.
In any case, deciding to get rid of your rotten bananas is the hardest. This is what Dr Daniel T Drubin, author of “Letting Go of Your Bananas” says: getting rid of your stale, rotten, and smelly bananas requires courage and confidence. The reason we need so much courage is that we are literally addicted to our own lifestyles and situations. The best definition I have ever heard for an addiction is: “When you can never have enough of what you really don’t want.” As much as we complain and want a banana-free existence, there is a part of us that just loves our smelly, rotten, and stale lifestyle. Our approach to life is more about settling for the status quo than reaching for the stars.
To advance beyond where you are, you must be prepared to make some very tough decisions and willingly accept the consequences of those decisions. In life, decisions drive behavior, and altered behavior creates altered outcomes. Remember, people who take emotional ownership of their lives win.
Well, honey, I have that one rotten banana in my hand now. The decision is still to be made, whether I’m going to just get rid of it, period. Or whether I should find ways to transform that rotten banana to a yummy banana cake that you can swallow. And of course there’s also the last option, the “terserah” option.
Whatever the decision will be, I would like you to know that you, my son, will always be my main concern. This is simply an instinct that mothers have towards their children: they protect, love, nurture…., unconditionally.
Hm, tough choices. I am sure you would make the best choice for your son, as you always have done, and as my mom has always done for me.
Rest assured, even if he does not understand your decision(s) now, he certainly will later, and thank you for that.
Btw, Have you watched Randy Pausch’s last lecture, Mbak? I think you will enjoy it. http://www.thelastlecture.com/.
Find the actual video somewhere in the menu and watch it to the end. I think you will enjoy it. Mind you, the video lasts more than an hour video, so you would need some (read: a loooong) time to download it–as in: start downloading, go to shopping malls, and watch the video when you return from the malls.